Lauren was an amazing support to me during the beginning stages of my divorce when I had no idea what I was doing. Her non-judgmental, “stop beating yourself up” approach was exactly what I needed. She is understanding, yet no-nonsense and helped to keep me on track with the overwhelming tasks of starting over. She helped me focus on the positives in my life and gave me strategies and tools that fit with my particular situation. I will forever be grateful to have been able to lean on Lauren through this emotional and difficult process.
Services By Stage of the Divorce Process
Pre-Divorce
If you’ve already decided to divorce, but have not initiated the legal process, this is the best time in the process to hire a coach to avoid costly mistakes, set yourself up to obtain the best possible results, and make smart decisions to set the tone of your separation and divorce process in a way that aligns with your outcome goals.
Decide to Stay or Go
If you are considering divorce, you may be feeling a rollercoaster of emotions. You may be uncertain, confused, and overwhelmed, which often leads to being frozen in inaction. Sitting on the fence on this issue is draining and not serving either end - whether that be working on the marriage or moving forward toward a new reality. This can be a very isolating time and without the right support, the effects of these feelings can bleed over into other areas of your life and wreak havoc on your emotional, mental, and even physical well-being. You can talk to your family and friends, but they often have their own biased opinions about your situation they feel free to share and may not provide you a safe, neutral space to help you process your feelings or share sensitive information confidentially.
If you are struggling with whether to get a divorce and need help deciding whether to stay or go, we can help you make the best decision for you. We will walk you through our CHANGE framework to making the separation decision, and help you understand the realities of both options clearly so you can clearly make an informed choice that is best for you. Whether you decide to stay or to go, we will devise a strategy for success for whichever path you are on.
Imagine . . .
- Finding the emotional peace that comes from thoughtfully and honestly examining all facets of this critical decision like a diamond.
- You’ll know you gave this big decision the thoughtful consideration it’s due.
- Getting the answers you need to calm your fears about your options.
- Having a roadmap to your next steps, regardless of which fork in the road you choose.
Make a Smart Exit
You've already made the decision to divorce, but the next steps seem confusing and overwhelming. The next decisions you make in this process are critical and can impact the trajectory of your divorce case and level of conflict.
Go from overwhelmed about what your next step is to moving forward with confidence and clarity, while protecting yourself, utilizing our 5-step process. Don’t walk this confusing and isolating path alone.
Imagine . . .
- Feeling clear on where you want to be at the end of the divorce
- Having a strategic roadmap on how to get there
- Understanding the legal process options you have to choose from and knowing how to pursue your chosen path
- Knowing who you want on your divorce team as support, including whether to hire an attorney and if so, who and how to do so
- Having organized the logistics for your next steps and planned for any safety concerns
- Being prepared to talk to your spouse about your decision in a way that does not escalate conflict and aligns with your divorce goals
- Having a plan about how you will talk to your kids about your decision in a way that is age-appropriate and that you will look back on and know you did your best in this memorable moment for them
- Moving forward with confidence
Mid-Divorce
Are you already going through a divorce and feel like you are lost or drowning? Maybe you are finding yourself sobbing while driving to work or after dropping off the kids at school – wondering when it will be over and when your pain will go away. You feel like you have exhausted your family and friends and need somewhere else to turn. You need someone to listen to you, not judge you, and guide you through this difficult chapter and on to a better one, which sometimes is hard to envision will ever happen.
Pre-Mediation Divorce Coaching
Step into the mediation room with confidence that:
- You understand and can navigate the mediation process.
- You know what you’ll be asking for as a resolution.
- You have a plan for obtaining the results most important to you.
- You can advocate for yourself and negotiate the issues in dispute.
- You know what to do when emotions run high and conflict ramps up.
Learn more about Lauren’s mediation coaching program HERE.
Personalized Divorce Coaching
Have compassionate and knowledegable guidance and support to:
- Get organized
- Minimize your attorney’s fees
- Understand the process
- Understand the financial aspects of divorce
- Identify, collect & organize evidence
- Make legal strategy decisions
- Develop parenting plan proposals
- Develop financial settlement proposals
- Manage conflict
- Transition your relationship from spouses to co-parents
- Support your children’s emotional wellbeing
Post-Divorce
If you are already divorced and you feel like you have unresolved issues preventing you from having the life you want, let’s talk. It could be that you are trying to navigate co-parenting with an uncooperative ex. Or you want to build a business to give you greater financial freedom and time with your kids, but are afraid to make the leap. We can work together to get clear on what your goals are for your next chapter and move forward with enthusiasm and optimism about the new opportunity you have to re-design your life.
Build a Post-Divorce Life You Are Excited to Live
Navigate Co-Parenting Challenges
Manage and reduce conflict
Improve co-parenting communication
What Our Clients Are Saying
She is understanding, yet no-nonsense and helped to keep me on track with the overwhelming tasks of starting over.
Megan B.
I started my sessions with Lauren feeling lost and finished our time together confident and hopeful.
Once I made the life-changing decision to seek a divorce, I knew I was going to need some help and guidance. Lauren was the perfect fit for me in that she was able to share her legal knowledge about the divorce process with me, but also could provide me with the needed emotional support and validation I needed along my journey. I started my sessions with Lauren feeling lost and finished our time together confident and hopeful. I am so grateful and I would recommend any woman going through the divorce process meet with Lauren!
Katie S.
When I was stuck on decisions, she was able to talk through all the possible outcomes to help guide me towards a decision without pressuring me one way or another.”
This was my first time ever going through a divorce and my ex had done it 3 times. He was great at manipulating and knew what he was doing. I had no idea. Lauren was able to provide me with all the info I needed and guided me when I had NO idea. I never would have been able to get as far as I did without her. Lauren was very supportive and helpful! Lauren was able to provide me with peace when I was stressed by explaining the next steps and reassuring me that what I was asking for wasn’t anything ridiculous. When I was stuck on decisions, she was able to talk through all the possible outcomes to help guide me towards a decision without pressuring me one way or another.”
Caitlin W.
Lauren Fair’s expertise, empathy, compassion, and thoroughness were a grounding force for me during a traumatic time.
Lauren Fair’s expertise, empathy, compassion, and thoroughness were a grounding force for me during a traumatic time. Compounding the typical stressors of divorce were the realities of fundamentally different parenting styles. I often found myself lamenting to Lauren. She served impeccably . . . to the point where Lauren also became a confidante.
Jamie S.
Request a Consultation
At Sensible Split Divorce, we understand that figuring out your next steps in your divorce can be overwhelming and stressful.
The decisions you make early on in the divorce process can seriously impact how long your divorce takes, how much it costs, and how much control you have over the outcome.
That’s why we offer a free, 30-minute consultation to our potential clients. We want you to have the chance to connect with us and gain your trust, while getting your questions answered about the mediation or coaching services you would like to learn more about.
The first step is to request a consultation.